Today, I had the unique pleasure of listening to two young men have a conversation. It was then, that I realized that some men view conversations as hierarchical. One person wins and another loses. One person's on top and the others on the bottom. Do men realize they're doing this? Do they feel they've won anything at the conversation's end?
Later, one of the more annoying one continued to correct me, he even went so far as to tell me my opinion was wrong! Asking me for my opinion and essentially telling me my opinion was wrong. Jerk.
The worst part of it is knowing that he thinks he's a good, nice person. I don't want to tell him that he's not because I don't know him all too well but I don't like the fact that he obviously is attempting to compensate for something by trying to put himself above everyone in conversations. I guess it doesn't matter because they are just conversations and at the end of the day I don't have to spend any recreational time with him but it's still super annoying. I guess I'll have to find a way to look past it. The summer's flying by so I won't have to see him much more after this.

On the other hand extremely insecure people that show that insecurity are also annoying to me. I absolutely hate listening, to girls in particular, complain about how much they hate their bodies compared to celebrities. Or girls that are in terrible relationships because they think they don't deserve better. I understand that not everyone is secure in every moment of the day but there is a happy medium between crippling insecurity and extreme arrogance.

I believe if you're smart then you don't have to put that on display to show your 'value'.
Have you ever had to work with someone (a man) who had a terribly large ego? How did you deal? Ever have the courage to point out his character flaws? Did you ever look at them the same after realizing their flaw? Do you have friends that are super insecure? How do you make them feel better about themselves? Comment please!

Hunted.

No new Poly Sets just yet. I usually don't like typing many words because I hate editing with a passion but let us try shall we? I totally did just switch 'person' there and I'm not changing it... Also if my coma usage annoys you I must apologize.

I've been noticing today that I'm around people that complain, ALOT. Literally everything isn't good enough. "The sun's too bright; it's too hot; those birds are chirping too loud."
C'mon! Life isn't that bad! And even if it is complaining won't make it better! I understand every once in a while people need to vent. But every day? About every little thing? No.
Is it because these kinds of people are so unhappy in their lives that they have to spread that kind of  poison and unhappiness to every one? Is that fair? If I'm having a wonderful day, must you ruin it? Am I obligated to listen to daily rants? Offer advice?

One another note, this guy I work with Carl, asked me on a date a few days ago. I promptly turned him down with a simple 'No'. Although I'm not attached to anyone right now I don't feel the need to explain my rejection further. I'm simply not interested/attracted to him. It would be a waste of both of our time. To supplement his failing pride he insisted that I must be a lesbian. Being the laid back person that I am I neither denied or confirmed this ridiculous speculation. If he needs to think me a lesbian for not thanking him profusely for expressing a romantic interest in me then fine.
I thought about it later that night and realized that he must have thought because he's a supervisor of sorts that I would jump at the chance to date him. This is untrue. In past conversations he's proved himself to be insecure, anti-feminist, uneducated and narcissistic. An all around winner.
But yesterday he persisted to ask me out again (several times)! I was sure I made it abundantly clear that I was not interested. I'm not sure what I can say or do at this point. If he asks me again- I think he will, this seems to be some sort of sport to him-I will definitely have to speak to a manager. I don't like being thought of as an animal to be caught or prize to be won.
I've heard from a few sources that if a guy your not interested in asks if your single that you should lie and say yes but this seems to be the anti-solution as a feminist. I don't think one should have to lie. If I'm not interested the I'm not interested. I shouldn't have to make up some fictional mate to protect the male ego. I must admit that this would have put an instant end to the 'game' I've been dragged into...
The thing about this whole situation that annoys me is that I keep saying NO but it doesn't seem to mean anything. Is my woman brain not advanced enough to realize what a 'catch' this misogynist is. Will he keep asking until I give the 'correct' answer.

What do you think?  Any suggestions?
Have you ever been 'hunted'? How did it make you feel? Desired? Scared and anxious?
Have you ever hunted someone? How'd it workout?

Kudos, to you, the reader if you've made it thus far. As a reward, I will suggest a fab book by an even more fab author, Hilary Thayer Hamann. It's called Anthropology of an American Girl. You can read an excerpt here. Go check it outt! :)