UGH. I hate complaining but I work with super annoying sexist arrogant boys. I took the job because I needed money to buy stuff for school but I have a lot of what I need and I wont make enough to cover the rest of tuition so I'm ready to just quit. I loath having to put up with lame boys every day. No being a feminist, I realize that not everyone will share my values and opinions but I don't even want to be in the same room as these boys. It's mostly the arrogance that gets to me, then the ignorance doesn't help at all. It sounds super snotty but they're sexist and they don't even know it. Gosh needless to say I don't fit in with them and their frat. The girls that work there either flirt inappropriately with co-workers or are too judgmental to carry on a decent conversation. With no friends at work and no potential of making enough money to make a major dent in the tuition balance I find myself with very little motivation to go back to work. In fact, I'm scheduled to come in every day for the next five days. How terrible is that? I can't sit and people watch for hours on end; there's only so much time you can spend sitting in a freezing room on a folding chair, reading (I max out at three, although 'Acts of Faith' by Eboo Patel is pretty good); and I can't stand most of the public. Working at a job you hate sucks. There must be a reason though, right?
Does anyone even read my blog?
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Today, I had the unique pleasure of listening to two young men have a conversation. It was then, that I realized that some men view conversations as hierarchical. One person wins and another loses. One person's on top and the others on the bottom. Do men realize they're doing this? Do they feel they've won anything at the conversation's end?
Later, one of the more annoying one continued to correct me, he even went so far as to tell me my opinion was wrong! Asking me for my opinion and essentially telling me my opinion was wrong. Jerk.
The worst part of it is knowing that he thinks he's a good, nice person. I don't want to tell him that he's not because I don't know him all too well but I don't like the fact that he obviously is attempting to compensate for something by trying to put himself above everyone in conversations. I guess it doesn't matter because they are just conversations and at the end of the day I don't have to spend any recreational time with him but it's still super annoying. I guess I'll have to find a way to look past it. The summer's flying by so I won't have to see him much more after this.
On the other hand extremely insecure people that show that insecurity are also annoying to me. I absolutely hate listening, to girls in particular, complain about how much they hate their bodies compared to celebrities. Or girls that are in terrible relationships because they think they don't deserve better. I understand that not everyone is secure in every moment of the day but there is a happy medium between crippling insecurity and extreme arrogance.
I believe if you're smart then you don't have to put that on display to show your 'value'.
Have you ever had to work with someone (a man) who had a terribly large ego? How did you deal? Ever have the courage to point out his character flaws? Did you ever look at them the same after realizing their flaw? Do you have friends that are super insecure? How do you make them feel better about themselves? Comment please!
Later, one of the more annoying one continued to correct me, he even went so far as to tell me my opinion was wrong! Asking me for my opinion and essentially telling me my opinion was wrong. Jerk.
The worst part of it is knowing that he thinks he's a good, nice person. I don't want to tell him that he's not because I don't know him all too well but I don't like the fact that he obviously is attempting to compensate for something by trying to put himself above everyone in conversations. I guess it doesn't matter because they are just conversations and at the end of the day I don't have to spend any recreational time with him but it's still super annoying. I guess I'll have to find a way to look past it. The summer's flying by so I won't have to see him much more after this.
On the other hand extremely insecure people that show that insecurity are also annoying to me. I absolutely hate listening, to girls in particular, complain about how much they hate their bodies compared to celebrities. Or girls that are in terrible relationships because they think they don't deserve better. I understand that not everyone is secure in every moment of the day but there is a happy medium between crippling insecurity and extreme arrogance.
I believe if you're smart then you don't have to put that on display to show your 'value'.
Have you ever had to work with someone (a man) who had a terribly large ego? How did you deal? Ever have the courage to point out his character flaws? Did you ever look at them the same after realizing their flaw? Do you have friends that are super insecure? How do you make them feel better about themselves? Comment please!
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Hunted.
No new Poly Sets just yet. I usually don't like typing many words because I hate editing with a passion but let us try shall we? I totally did just switch 'person' there and I'm not changing it... Also if my coma usage annoys you I must apologize.
I've been noticing today that I'm around people that complain, ALOT. Literally everything isn't good enough. "The sun's too bright; it's too hot; those birds are chirping too loud."
C'mon! Life isn't that bad! And even if it is complaining won't make it better! I understand every once in a while people need to vent. But every day? About every little thing? No.
Is it because these kinds of people are so unhappy in their lives that they have to spread that kind of poison and unhappiness to every one? Is that fair? If I'm having a wonderful day, must you ruin it? Am I obligated to listen to daily rants? Offer advice?
One another note, this guy I work with Carl, asked me on a date a few days ago. I promptly turned him down with a simple 'No'. Although I'm not attached to anyone right now I don't feel the need to explain my rejection further. I'm simply not interested/attracted to him. It would be a waste of both of our time. To supplement his failing pride he insisted that I must be a lesbian. Being the laid back person that I am I neither denied or confirmed this ridiculous speculation. If he needs to think me a lesbian for not thanking him profusely for expressing a romantic interest in me then fine.
I thought about it later that night and realized that he must have thought because he's a supervisor of sorts that I would jump at the chance to date him. This is untrue. In past conversations he's proved himself to be insecure, anti-feminist, uneducated and narcissistic. An all around winner.
But yesterday he persisted to ask me out again (several times)! I was sure I made it abundantly clear that I was not interested. I'm not sure what I can say or do at this point. If he asks me again- I think he will, this seems to be some sort of sport to him-I will definitely have to speak to a manager. I don't like being thought of as an animal to be caught or prize to be won.
I've heard from a few sources that if a guy your not interested in asks if your single that you should lie and say yes but this seems to be the anti-solution as a feminist. I don't think one should have to lie. If I'm not interested the I'm not interested. I shouldn't have to make up some fictional mate to protect the male ego. I must admit that this would have put an instant end to the 'game' I've been dragged into...
The thing about this whole situation that annoys me is that I keep saying NO but it doesn't seem to mean anything. Is my woman brain not advanced enough to realize what a 'catch' this misogynist is. Will he keep asking until I give the 'correct' answer.
What do you think? Any suggestions?
Have you ever been 'hunted'? How did it make you feel? Desired? Scared and anxious?
Have you ever hunted someone? How'd it workout?
Kudos, to you, the reader if you've made it thus far. As a reward, I will suggest a fab book by an even more fab author, Hilary Thayer Hamann. It's called Anthropology of an American Girl. You can read an excerpt here. Go check it outt! :)
I've been noticing today that I'm around people that complain, ALOT. Literally everything isn't good enough. "The sun's too bright; it's too hot; those birds are chirping too loud."
C'mon! Life isn't that bad! And even if it is complaining won't make it better! I understand every once in a while people need to vent. But every day? About every little thing? No.
Is it because these kinds of people are so unhappy in their lives that they have to spread that kind of poison and unhappiness to every one? Is that fair? If I'm having a wonderful day, must you ruin it? Am I obligated to listen to daily rants? Offer advice?
One another note, this guy I work with Carl, asked me on a date a few days ago. I promptly turned him down with a simple 'No'. Although I'm not attached to anyone right now I don't feel the need to explain my rejection further. I'm simply not interested/attracted to him. It would be a waste of both of our time. To supplement his failing pride he insisted that I must be a lesbian. Being the laid back person that I am I neither denied or confirmed this ridiculous speculation. If he needs to think me a lesbian for not thanking him profusely for expressing a romantic interest in me then fine.
I thought about it later that night and realized that he must have thought because he's a supervisor of sorts that I would jump at the chance to date him. This is untrue. In past conversations he's proved himself to be insecure, anti-feminist, uneducated and narcissistic. An all around winner.
But yesterday he persisted to ask me out again (several times)! I was sure I made it abundantly clear that I was not interested. I'm not sure what I can say or do at this point. If he asks me again- I think he will, this seems to be some sort of sport to him-I will definitely have to speak to a manager. I don't like being thought of as an animal to be caught or prize to be won.
I've heard from a few sources that if a guy your not interested in asks if your single that you should lie and say yes but this seems to be the anti-solution as a feminist. I don't think one should have to lie. If I'm not interested the I'm not interested. I shouldn't have to make up some fictional mate to protect the male ego. I must admit that this would have put an instant end to the 'game' I've been dragged into...
The thing about this whole situation that annoys me is that I keep saying NO but it doesn't seem to mean anything. Is my woman brain not advanced enough to realize what a 'catch' this misogynist is. Will he keep asking until I give the 'correct' answer.
What do you think? Any suggestions?
Have you ever been 'hunted'? How did it make you feel? Desired? Scared and anxious?
Have you ever hunted someone? How'd it workout?
Kudos, to you, the reader if you've made it thus far. As a reward, I will suggest a fab book by an even more fab author, Hilary Thayer Hamann. It's called Anthropology of an American Girl. You can read an excerpt here. Go check it outt! :)
Monday, May 31, 2010
love.
New Set andd...
...this kid's amazing. :)
Amazon.com: Christian Dior Ladies Watch Dior Christal CD113118M001:...
$2,091 - amazon.com
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$2,091 - amazon.com
More watches »
Classic Vintage 1980s Tortoiseshell Ray Ban Wayfarer with Original...
$98 - love-worn.com
More Ray-Ban sunglasses »
$98 - love-worn.com
More Ray-Ban sunglasses »
...this kid's amazing. :)
Sunday, May 9, 2010
End of the Year Madness!
Items in this set:
ribbon tie cocoon wrap cardigan, 385 GBP
Saloon Floral Tiered Vest, $60
Bustier Jumper, $325
Charlotte Olympia Margo Leather Pumps with Platform, 635 GBP
Natasha Totally Turnlock bag, $330
ribbon tie cocoon wrap cardigan, 385 GBP
Saloon Floral Tiered Vest, $60
Bustier Jumper, $325
Charlotte Olympia Margo Leather Pumps with Platform, 635 GBP
Natasha Totally Turnlock bag, $330
Items in this set:
ribbon tie cocoon wrap cardigan, 385 GBP
EVER 62609 LIGHTBLUE COTTON SEQUOIA ROMPER, 140 GBP
Frye Shoes Maxine Campus - Wine, $205
Natasha Totally Turnlock bag, $330
18ct gold wedding ring - Ernest Jones, 300 GBP
ribbon tie cocoon wrap cardigan, 385 GBP
EVER 62609 LIGHTBLUE COTTON SEQUOIA ROMPER, 140 GBP
Frye Shoes Maxine Campus - Wine, $205
Natasha Totally Turnlock bag, $330
18ct gold wedding ring - Ernest Jones, 300 GBP
Items in this set:
American Retro Hippie fringed wool dress, $125
Women's Mossimo® Penny Suede Flat Sandals - Black : Target, $23
Wooden Bracelet, J.W. Anderson, size: S, 110 GBP
Monsoon Accessorize - Maldives Mix Bangles, 20 GBP
Chanel Le Vernis Nail Color Colour Polish Particuliere No. 505 Limited..., $30
American Retro Hippie fringed wool dress, $125
Women's Mossimo® Penny Suede Flat Sandals - Black : Target, $23
Wooden Bracelet, J.W. Anderson, size: S, 110 GBP
Monsoon Accessorize - Maldives Mix Bangles, 20 GBP
Chanel Le Vernis Nail Color Colour Polish Particuliere No. 505 Limited..., $30
Items in this set:
Knit Tank 3 Tier Dress, $15
Etoile-12 Stone Jacket, 360 GBP
COACH STEFANIE HEEL - HEELS - COACH - Macy's, $190
Paloma's Sugar Stacks ring, $980
Paloma's Sugar Stacks ring, $980
Knit Tank 3 Tier Dress, $15
Etoile-12 Stone Jacket, 360 GBP
COACH STEFANIE HEEL - HEELS - COACH - Macy's, $190
Paloma's Sugar Stacks ring, $980
Paloma's Sugar Stacks ring, $980
Monday, March 15, 2010
BAHH!
No new Poly Sets to post.
Something more important has come to my attention.
Why don't men take women seriously, more importantly why don't women take other women seriously?!
When this woman says some creep made her feel uncomfortable while jogging, other women told her it's not a big deal.
When I told my RA's my suitemate is disgusting and leaves blood trails everywhere for me to clean up, they didn't take me seriously. They told me 'it's no big deal.'
Well, it's a big deal if it makes me or the jogger uncomfortable!
Just because you haven't experienced it personally doesn't make it any less valid!
This is so annoying/ frustrating. You'd think because I go to an all women's college this kind of thing wouldn't happen.
Maybe getting rid of 'jeggings' and layers of makeup will help.
UPDATE
This sounds really dumb but, I've realized that you have to tell people when they've crossed a line with you. andd new Poly set, I couldn't resist.. :D
Something more important has come to my attention.
Why don't men take women seriously, more importantly why don't women take other women seriously?!
When this woman says some creep made her feel uncomfortable while jogging, other women told her it's not a big deal.
When I told my RA's my suitemate is disgusting and leaves blood trails everywhere for me to clean up, they didn't take me seriously. They told me 'it's no big deal.'
Well, it's a big deal if it makes me or the jogger uncomfortable!
Just because you haven't experienced it personally doesn't make it any less valid!
This is so annoying/ frustrating. You'd think because I go to an all women's college this kind of thing wouldn't happen.
Maybe getting rid of 'jeggings' and layers of makeup will help.
UPDATE
This sounds really dumb but, I've realized that you have to tell people when they've crossed a line with you. andd new Poly set, I couldn't resist.. :D
Items in this set:
I Love Peace Raglan, $14
Avedon Slick skinny legging jeans, $165
Women's new arrivals - shoes - Quoddy® handmade ring boots - J.Crew, $300
Vintage Feminine Beaded Headwraps, $24
bezel set tiny ring, $360
I Love Peace Raglan, $14
Avedon Slick skinny legging jeans, $165
Women's new arrivals - shoes - Quoddy® handmade ring boots - J.Crew, $300
Vintage Feminine Beaded Headwraps, $24
bezel set tiny ring, $360
Thursday, March 11, 2010
yay!
New Set!
Items in this set:
Vince Oversized Roll Sleeve Shirt - Chambray, $185
J Brand 11" Denim Legging - Pitch, $140
Celine accessories, 265 GBP
22-karat gold-plated string ring, $180
Tiffany Keys Oval Key Pendant, $175
Vince Oversized Roll Sleeve Shirt - Chambray, $185
J Brand 11" Denim Legging - Pitch, $140
Celine accessories, 265 GBP
22-karat gold-plated string ring, $180
Tiffany Keys Oval Key Pendant, $175
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